39 Best Sex Toys for Women in 2023 to Fight the Orgasm Gap

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The best sex toys for women have come a long way—and made a lot of people come—from the humble beginnings of steam-powered vibrators and rubber dildos. It’s always been more a more wide-ranging category than the equivalent tools for men. (Though one look at the best sex toys for men shows that changing in recent years.) It can be difficult for beginners to know exactly what adult toys to buy for the first time, whether you're shopping for yourself or a partner.

Let us introduce you to the “orgasm gap,” the fact that straight men reportedly climax during sex much more frequently and consistently than straight women. This is mainly because most women's main pleasure source, the clitoris, is often overlooked (or even totally ignored) during heterosexual penis-in-vagina sex. But get this, men, sex is so much more fun and interesting than putting tab A into slot B, especially once you get some fun-loving tools into the mix.

We're here to recommend the best sex toys for women, so you'd be right to assume we're writing for women. But this is also a reminder for guys who might be shopping for a woman that they don't need to be uncomfortable about bringing toys into the bedroom. It’s important to remember that a sex toy cannot cuddle with your partner, or whisper filthy compliments in her ear, or remember exactly how she likes to be touched—so you’re better off viewing sex toys as your allies, not your adversaries, in the pursuit of pleasure and self care.

These days, having lube or a couples vibrator or even a prostate massager in your nightstand is just a sign you like feeling good—it's the kind of thing you can get on Amazon these days. Because sex is more fun for everyone when everyone is having fun, you know? So here are some of the best sex toys aimed at women and people with vulvas.

You already know what you want, and you want it right the hell now. Here you go—thank us later.

While there are about a zillion different kinds of sex toys out there, there are a few main categories to consider when shopping for sex toys for women.

Clitoral vibrators: The clit is the most important part of most women’s sexual anatomy when it comes to pleasure and orgasm, so it makes sense that many toys are aimed at pleasing it. You can use pretty much any vibrator on the clit, but if you’re looking for one specifically for this purpose, often a small toy (like a bullet vibrator) will work the best, especially if you want to use it during penetrative sex.

Pressure-wave toys: These are a newer category of clitorally focused toys, which use rhythmic pulses of air to stimulate the clit hands-free. It’s a sensation that sort of has to be felt to be understood; some people say it feels like great oral sex, while others say it’s more of a sucking or tapping sensation.

Insertable vibrators: Internal erogenous zones like the G-spot can enjoy vibration too! An insertable vibrator will have a longer shaft than a clitoral vibe, and may have an upward curve that aims for the G-spot. You can use an internal vibrator on its own, or pair it with a clitoral toy for explosive blended orgasms.

Wand vibrators: While originally designed and marketed as “body massagers,” these large, round-headed vibrators are also beloved by people who need (or want) a lot of power to get off. And, naturally, you can also use them for actual body massage if the mood strikes!

Dildos: For those who love penetration, there are a ton of different types of dildos to explore. Some are realistic (i.e. dick-like), while others are more abstract-looking; some are squishy, soft silicone, while others are made of glass, metal, ceramic or wood; some are designed to target specific zones, like the G-spot, while others are more about just providing a sensation of fullness.

Anal toys: Although cisgender women don’t have prostates, there are still a lot of nerve endings in and around the anus that make it a pleasurable area for many women. Butt plugs, anal beads, and anal vibrators are just some of the options available.

Materials: Silicone and ABS plastic Battery Life: About 3 hours How to Use: Turn on using power button, control vibration speed or change settings with the other two buttons, and place wherever you want some vibration.

This toy has a fervent fanbase, which might explain its frequent appearance in porn—and it got even better when its maker introduced a cordless, rechargeable version in 2015. It may not be the most versatile or discreet massager in the world, but its impressive vibration settings more than make up for what it lacks in subtlety.

Pros: Very powerful, 4 vibration intensities and 4 vibration patterns, doubles as a great massager for sore/tense muscles; long battery life, and can be used while charging if it dies mid-session Cons: Too big and bulky for some sex positions, can get loud on higher settings, less-than-glamorous aesthetic

Materials: Silicone and ABS plastic Battery Life: Up to 2 hours How to Use: Position on your clit (or wherever you want it) and turn it on with the “+” button. Adjust vibration speed or change settings with the buttons on the toy.

They say that good things come in small packages, and this vibe is a prime example. Its petite size makes its powerful vibrations all the more remarkable. It’s also waterproof so it’d be an ideal companion for bath-time masturbation or your next shower rendezvous.

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Pros: Amazingly powerful, rumbly motor for its size, petite enough to be used in a variety of positions, 7 vibration modes with 8 intensities each; waterproof; quiet; silicone handle makes it easier to hold onto Cons: Hard plastic may rattle uncomfortably against genital piercings if you have them

Materials: Silicone, ABS plastic, and polyurethane Battery Life: About 4 hours How to Use: Apply water-based lubricant to the toy’s nozzle and place it over your clit. Turn it on with the power button and use the other buttons to control vibration speed and cycle through vibration settings.

Toys like the Womanizer use rhythmic pulses of air to create a clitoral sensation that’s somewhere between sucking, tapping, and vibration. This one has an “autopilot mode” that makes it feel even more like oral pleasure from a real live human (especially when well-lubed).

Pros: Powerful and unique pressure-wave sensations; sleek aesthetic; quiet; waterproof; 14 intensity levels; long battery life; shape is ergonomic to hold onto; optional “autopilot mode” automatically changes the toy’s intensity level over time so you don’t have to; comes with two differently-sized stimulation heads to choose from Cons: May not fit especially small or large clits; pressure waves may not be powerful enough for users who aren’t very sensitive or are used to strong vibrators; may be a bit too bulky to use during sex in missionary position

Materials: Stainless steel How to Use: Apply a lube of your choice and slide the plug into your butt.

This luxe metal plug is blissfully smooth, compatible with all lubricants, and heavy enough to be pleasantly noticeable but not so heavy as to be uncomfortable. Though it also comes in small and large versions, the medium one is an ideal size for most anal newbies.

Pros: Both the plug itself and its base are comfortable; can indirectly stimulate the G-spot through the vaginal wall; great for temperature play; can be used with any kind of lube Will last basically forever; beginner-friendly size, with other size options available; looped base makes removal easier; made to stay in place well, so you can wear it while having sex or even while out and about; comes in a gift-ready storage box with satin lining Cons: May be uncomfortably firm for some users; cold to the touch unless you pre-warm it

Materials: Silicone and ABS plastic Battery Life: Up to 2 hours How to Use: Apply a water-based lubricant to the toy and place it on your clit or slip it inside your vagina. Use the buttons on the toy to turn it on or off, adjust its intensity, or change settings.

Like any vibrator worth its salt, this one is powerful—but what really makes it stand out is its shape, which is so good that the toy can provide profound pleasure when rubbed against the G-spot whether the vibrations are on or off.

Pros: Fantastic G-spot curve; strong, deep vibrations; quiet; waterproof Cons: Not anal-safe, can’t be used with silicone-based lubes

Materials: Silicone Battery Life: Up to 2 hours How to Use: Apply water-based lubricant to both arms of the toy. Slip the internal arm inside your vagina, and position the external arm comfortably on your clit. Use the buttons on the toy to turn it on or off, adjust its intensity, or change settings. You can thrust the toy in and out or just hold it still.

"By stimulating multiple nerve pathways (externally via the clitoris and internally via the upper vaginal wall or G-zone), you’re more likely to experience intense and more full-bodied sensations," Dr. Jessica O’Reilly, a sexologist and sex and relationships expert for Lovehoney, says. However, even among dual-stimulation toys, this one stands out, due to its flexible clitoral arm which can maintain contact with your clit even as you thrust the toy in and out, for ultra-satisfying climaxes.

Pros: Simultaneous stimulation of clit and G-spot for potential blended orgasms; both components can be controlled separately or together; deep, powerful vibrations in both motors; 10 different vibration patterns; angle of internal arm is adjustable; flexible enough that you can thrust it in and out without it losing contact with your clit; flexibility also allows it to fit a broad range of anatomies; quiet; waterproof; can be controlled remotely via the We-Vibe app Cons: Can be awkward to try to use either arm of the toy by itself, so it’s not very versatile; can’t be used with silicone-based lubes

Materials: Stainless steel How to Use: Apply a lube of your choice to your preferred end of the toy and slide it inside your vagina or butt. You can thrust it in and out, gently rock it back and forth, hold it still, or some combination of these.

This gorgeous toy’s solid stainless steel construction makes it ideal for applying firm pressure to the G-spot. Just prepare to be in the splash zone if your partner is a squirter. (Waterproof poncho, anyone?)

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Pros: Deep curve for G-spot and prostate stimulation; firm material makes stimulation even more intense; double-ended design gives you two size options to choose from; can be used with any kind of lube; good for temperature play; will last basically forever; comes in a gift-ready storage box with satin lining Cons: Heavy; may be uncomfortably firm for some users; can be hard to pair a medium-to-large clitoral vibe with it, because the curve of the toy gets in the way

Materials: Silicone How to Use: Apply a water-based lubricant and slide the toy inside your vagina or butt. Thrust if desired.

Some guys’ insecurities make them feel envious or resentful of sex toys, especially realistic ones— but if you can work past those feelings, there’s a lot of freaky fun and mutual satisfaction to be found with a toy like this. Its dual-density material and gentle curve are terrific for G-spot stimulation, and can also hit your prostate if you decide to flip the script.

Pros: Super realistic-looking; dual-density silicone is firm yet comfortably squishy; harness-compatible for strap-on sex; curve and coronal ridge work well for G-spot/prostate stimulation Cons: Can’t be used with silicone-based lubes

Materials: Silicone Battery Life: 2 hours How to Use: Put the vibrator inside your underwear and secure it where you want it by placing the included magnetic clip on the outside of your underwear where the toy is. Use the button on the toy to turn it on or off and cycle through its settings, or connect it via Bluetooth to the We-Vibe app to control it from there.

Affix this panty vibe to your underwear using the included magnetic clip, pair it with the We-Connect app on your phone, and you're ready to enjoy discreet vibrations. "If you want to inject playfulness and build anticipation, the Moxie is my top recommendation," O'Reilly says. “Its vibes are rumbly and quiet so you can wear it anywhere.”

Pros: Secure magnetic clip keeps vibe in place even while walking around; strong vibrations; 10+ vibration modes; toy comes with extra magnetic clip incase you lose the first one; quiet; waterproof; app connectivity for either short-distance or long-distance play Cons: Bluetooth connectivity can be unreliable

Materials: Silicone Battery Life: 5 hours How to Use: Apply water-based lube to the toy and insert the larger end into your vagina, facing upward so that the external arm sits on your clit. Control the toy with the button on it, or by connecting it to the Lovense app on your phone.

This Bluetooth-controllable toy is a fave of many webcam performers, who let their fans titillate them from afar using Lovense’s well-designed app. With its rumbly powerful motor and lightning-fast responsiveness, it’s also the best option for long-distance couples who want to keep their sexual connection strong while they’re apart.

Pros: Strong vibrations; intensely focused G-spot stimulation; quiet enough for discreet public use; app connectivity for either short-distance or long-distance play; app has a “sync to music” function, allowing vibrations to be activated by sound; waterproof Cons: Clitoral arm may be too slim/flimsy to stay positioned on some users’ clits; vibrations barely conduct into clitoral arm; difficult (if not impossible) to have penetrative sex while it’s in; can’t be used with silicone-based lubes

Materials: Silicone Battery Life: Up to 2 hours How to Use: Adjust the toy’s angle as desired by bending it at the hinge in its center. Apply water-based lube to the toy and slip the smaller side into your vagina, facing up so that the larger end is on your clit. Control the toy with its button, its included remote, or by connecting it to the We-Vibe app.

"This is the original couples' vibe," O'Reilly says. Its ingenious shape stimulates both the G-spot and clitoris at once during penetrative sex, and it can feel great when used solo too. With its 10-plus vibration modes, there's always something fun and new going on. Plus, it's waterproof for a little shower action (and it's like it gets clean in the process).

Pros: Simultaneous stimulation of the clit and G-spot; strong vibrations; 10+ vibration modes; can be used solo or with a partner, including while being penetrated vaginally with a penis or dildo; bendable and adjustable for a better fit; ridged texture helps keep toy in place during sex or masturbation; app connectivity for either short-distance or long-distance play; quiet; waterproof; can also be used in the palm of your hand to add some vibration to a handjob or blowjob Cons: Hinge may break if bent too hard/the wrong way; can’t be used with silicone-based lubes

Materials: ABS plastic, silicone, and thermoplastic Battery Life: About 4 hours How to Use: Place the tip of the toy on your clit or another external erogenous zone, adding some lube if desired. Control the toy with its buttons.

“If you like intense, pinpointed vibes that are more concentrated in one area, the Zumio X is the perfect pick,” O'Reilly says. Clitoral stimulation is the missing ingredient from standard P-in-V sex for many women, and the simplest solution is a slim, unobtrusive vibrator like the Zumio she can use on herself during the act. Since this toy uses fast "oscillations" rather than standard vibration, it can feel more intense and less numbing.

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Pros: Tiny circular oscillations can be more stimulating and less numbing than standard vibration; eight oscillation speeds; very slim tip is well-suited for pinpoint stimulation; tip can be used lengthwise for a more diffuse sensation; pen-like design is ergonomic to hold onto; slim enough to pair well with penetrative sex or a dildo; quiet; waterproof; inductive charging cup makes it easy to keep the toy charged between uses Cons: May be uncomfortably pinpointed for some users; slows down when pressure is applied; takes 16 hours to charge fully

Materials: ABS plastic (body) and elastomer (attachments) How to Use: Plug the toy in and put an attachment of your choice onto it. Apply a water-based lubricant if desired, apply the tip of the toy to your clit, and turn it on with the silver slider on the side. Adjust the oscillation intensity using the slider.

It may look like a medieval torture device, but this hilariously hideous vibrator actually feels like nothing else on the market—in a good way. It oscillates, rather than vibrating, so the sensations it creates feel deeper and it’s less likely to cause the temporary numbness some people report from vibration. I got mine over a decade ago and it literally hasn't left my nightstand since then (except when I travel!) because orgasms with it are so easy and satisfying. It also comes with multiple attachments, so you can experiment with different shapes and textures.

Pros: Oscillations are more deeply stimulating and less numbing than standard vibrations; comes with multiple attachments that all feel different and conduct the oscillations at different intensities; ridged body makes it easier to hold onto and change settings, even with lubey hands; slim enough to be used during penetrative sex; quiet Cons: Expensive; only 3 speeds; may not be powerful enough for users who are accustomed to strong vibration; requires a nearby power outlet; not very attractive-looking; attachments are porous, so it’s harder to keep them clean

Materials: ABS plastic How to Use: Insert 2 AA batteries into the toy and screw the cap closed tightly. Turn the vibe on or off and adjust its intensity with the dial at the base.

Many vibrators under $20 are made of porous materials known to cause irritation or infections, like PVC or rubber. This one, on the other hand, is made of body-safe plastic, has different speeds, is waterproof, and can provide internal or external stimulation. When it comes to cheap vibes, this one is a diamond in the rough.

Pros: Affordable; powerful for its price point; dial gives you more granular control over vibration intensity; raised bumps along shaft for vaginal wall stimulation; can be used clitorally or vaginally; waterproof; useable with any kind of lube Cons: Loud; vibrations are relatively buzzy/surface-level; requires disposable batteries; no vibration patterns; no G-spot curve; raised bumps may feel like too much for some users (lube helps)

Materials: Aluminum, titanium, and silicone How to Use: Plug it in, put it where you want it, and turn it on using the power button on the side. Adjust the speed with the other buttons.

While this aluminum-bodied vibrator is too heavy and bulky to earn the distinction of best wand, it’s inarguably one of the strongest vibes on the market. Anyone who just can't get enough will love this one. Its rumbly vibrations are super powerful, so get prepared to be blown away by this jackhammer of a vibrator.

Pros: Extremely powerful; beautiful and elegant-looking; “double-weighted” head for a rumblier/deeper quality of vibration; LED-lighted buttons so you can find them more easily in the dark Cons: Loud; heavy; requires a nearby power outlet; may be uncomfortably strong for some users

Materials: Silicone How to Use: Place the Gee Whiz onto the head of a standard-sized wand vibrator like the Magic Wand Rechargeable. (You may want to apply some water-based lube to the inside of the attachment before putting it on the wand, to make removal easier later on.) Position it wherever you want it and turn the wand on. When you’re done, remove the attachment from the wand to clean it.

Slip this silicone attachment onto a standard-sized wand (like the Magic Wand Rechargeable or Doxy Die Cast, above), and you can instantly harness all those powerful vibrations into a shape that targets the G-spot. This attachment is also ideal for people who like clitoral vibration but prefer it to be more focused than the broad head of a typical wand.

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Pros: Turns your wand vibrator into a vibrator that can target either the clit, the G-spot, or both at the same time; easy to clean Cons: Requires that you own a standard-sized wand vibrator to attach it to; expensive for an attachment; can’t be used with silicone-based lubes

Materials: Silicone and ABS plastic Battery Life: About 45 minutes How to Use: Apply some water-based lube to the toy and slip it inside your vagina, with the head facing up toward your G-spot. Turn it on with the “Fun” button and control the thrusting speed with the other two buttons.

Many G-spots crave fast, firm pressure that can get tiring to provide by hand. This innovative toy physically thrusts back and forth against that spot, freeing up your hands to do other things. Some may find it's a little too thick, i.e. girthy, for them, but this offers a helluva good time, especially if you use it with a partner.

Pros: Intense G-spot stimulation; automatic, hands-free thrusting; your partner can use it on you while giving you oral sex, for some added G-spot stimulation that requires almost no effort/focus on their part; waterproof Cons: May be too girthy for some users; short battery life and takes six to eight hours to recharge fully; may wiggle out of you if not anchored in place by a pillow (or similar) between your legs; thrusting is not as powerful as that of a full-size machine; can’t be used with silicone-based lubes

Materials: Stainless steel How to Use: Apply a lube of your choice to whichever end you prefer, and slide it inside you (vaginally or anally).

This toy is called the Eleven because it’s 11 inches of satisfying steel; that much metal comes at a price, but for fans of big and deep penetration, it’s well worth it. The double-ended design gives you more bang for your buck, so to speak—and maybe you’ll save on gym costs, because you can definitely skip “arm day” after ploughing somebody with this toy. “This is a beautiful stainless steel dildo that is great for playing with weight, texture, and temperature,”O'Reilly says.

Pros: Beautiful; great for intense G-spot stimulation; double-ended design gives you two different size/texture options; ridges on one side make it easier to hold onto when thrusting; will last forever; comes in a gift-ready storage box with satin lining Cons: Heavy; expensive; unyieldingly firm; may be too big for some users

Materials: Silicone How to Use: Apply some water-based lube to the toy and insert it vaginally (or anally, if you prefer).

OK, so it might be one of the only vaginal plugs on the market, but still. This toy is great for applying pleasurable pressure against the G-spot while you do other stuff, like kissing, external fingering, or oral sex. Some of my most stellar orgasms have happened from my partner going down on me while I had this toy inside me.

Pros: Perfectly shaped for effortless G-spot stimulation; can be worn during non-penetrative sex (e.g. while receiving oral sex) to intensify those sensations; flared base makes it safe for either vaginal or anal use; harness-compatible for strap-on sex Cons: Some users might find it uncomfortably girthy or too firm; can’t be used with silicone-based lubes

Materials: Metal with silicone-coated tips How to Use: Clip clamps onto nipples and use the screws at the side of each clamp to adjust their tightness. Leave on for about 15 minutes at most before removing.

These elegant clamps are adjustable, so they should suit nervous newbies and seasoned sadomasochists alike. Tug on the chain between them whenever you think the wearer needs a twinge of sexy pain. These clamps are easy to use, and they make a great entry point for those looking to get into a little pain play.

Pros: Silicone tips are more comfortable than metal and stay put better; chain can be tugged to momentarily intensify pain; adjustable tension for a custom fit; affordable; nickel-free Cons: As with all clamps, can cause numbness, tingling, and health issues if left on for too long or used improperly; chain is non-removable so clamps can’t be used individually

Materials: Spandex and polyester How to Use: Step into the harness and adjust the straps to fit your body. Insert a dildo through the O-ring in the front. When you’re done, take the dildo out and launder the harness.

Whether pegging is a frequent part of your sex life or just an item on your bucket list, this harness is a fantastic choice. It’s comfortable, adjustable, fits a wide range of dildo sizes, and features a pocket that holds a small vibrator for clitoral stimulation for full sensory overload.

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Pros: Comfortable; strong and sturdy; machine-washable; adjustable leg straps and belt; open design allows for the wearer’s genitals to be touched or penetrated during use; contains a small pouch in which you can insert a bullet vibrator for the wearer’s pleasure; stretchy O-ring fits many different dildo sizes; vegan-friendly Cons: O-ring cannot be swapped out for one of a different size, so you can’t use very girthy or very slim dildos with it; arguably not as sexy-looking as some leather harnesses (though that’s a matter of personal taste)

Materials: Silicone and ABS plastic Battery Life: About 2 hours How to Use: Apply some water-based lube to the toy if desired, and place it on your clit or another external erogenous zone. Control the vibe with its two buttons.

When you've never used a vibrator before, often the best introduction is one that's small enough to fit into the palm of your hand and to slip between bodies unobtrusively during sex. This one is coated in soft and squishy silicone for increased comfort, and has low-frequency vibrations engineered to give you more intense orgasms.

Pros: Deep, rumbly vibrations; perfect size for holding in the palm of your hand; versatile shape for using on many different body parts; 5 vibration speeds and 7 vibration patterns; fits easily between bodies during penetrative sex; made of super soft, comfortable silicone; waterproof; 100% vegan Cons: Might not be strong enough or firm enough for users who prefer powerful sensations or like to apply a lot of pressure; can’t be used with silicone-based lubes

Materials: Silicone and ABS plastic Battery Life: About 1 hour How to Use: Apply some water-based lubricant to the nozzle of the toy and place it on your clit. Control the toy via its buttons or by connecting it to the Satisfyer app.

One end of this toy is a pressure-wave clit stimulator, and the other vibrates, so if you want a toy that can be used in different ways to suit your mood, this is a terrific option. Its ergonomic design makes it easy to hold onto during sex, and you can even use it with a long-distance partner via Satisfyer's app. You really can have it all!

Pros: Interesting pressure-wave sensations that are different from vibrations; also incorporates vibration, for a double-whammy of clitoral stimulation; 11 air pulse settings and 10 vibration settings; controllable from a short distance or a long distance using the Satisfyer app; slim, ergonomic shape works well during penetrative sex; waterproof Cons: Short battery life; may not work for very large or very small clits

Materials: Silicone Battery Life: About 90 minutes How to Use: Slip your fingers through the strap before using, if you want. Turn the toy off or on, and control its speed, with the button on it.

This little vibe is designed to fit between your fingers so effortlessly that it almost feels like an extension of your hand. When sex is feeling good but you need a little something extra to push you over the edge, it's easy and fast to grab this toy and add it into the action.

Pros: Finger strap helps you keep a good grip on the toy effortlessly and makes it feel like a more seamless, unobtrusive part of sex; strap can be removed if you prefer to use the vibrator without it; has a pointy side and a soft squishy side, giving you options to experiment with; works well for both solo time and partnered sex; water-resistant (i.e. fine to use in the shower but not the bath) Cons: May not be strong enough for some users; only 3 intensity levels; can’t be used with silicone-based lubes; not fully waterproof

Materials: Silicone and ABS plastic Battery Life: 3 hours How to Use: Place the toy against your clit (or any other external erogenous zone). Turn it on with the button on the side, and control the settings using that same button, or by connecting the toy to the Lovense app.

This vibrator is made to look like a tube of lipstick, so TSA agents and nosy houseguests probably won't bat an eye over it. The angled tip gives you a lot of options for how to direct this toy's powerful vibrations—you can use the whole flat end of the toy for broader stimulation, or press just the very tip against your clit for a more pinpointed feel.

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Sex Toys Website Pros: Strong, rumbly vibrations; discreetly disguised as a tube of lipstick; good for travel or using “on the go;" small size allows it to pair well with penetrative sex or a dildo; can be controlled via the Lovense app from nearby or from far away; sound-activated “sync to music” setting; waterproof Cons: Only one button to cycle through all the settings

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